Tuesday, May 4, 2010

Not a very pretty post and super personal...

My text is not even centered, and there are no pretty jpeg images in this post- just plain old text!!! I am S.T.R.E.S.S.E.D!

I should re-title this blog the "Real Hostess: Sugar Coating Not Optional".

Anyhoo I need to vent! So this would fall under the "life" category!

My husband works hard, at least 55 hrs a week. He is a manager at a car dealership, not the ideal occupation- but it pays the bills. Brad has worked at this dealership for almost 7 years, 7... he has worked his ass off for this company... nights, weekends, holidays, going in on his day off- I MEAN HARD. It is effecting his health, our marriage, overall our life.

Recently, Brad's hours have increased. 14 hour days are common, arriving home at 9:45pm- normal. Not ideal, but we are looking at the big picture here, or so we thought.

Brad arrived home this evening informing me Mr. Big boss feels they need to "adjust" his pay plan... UMMM also known as a PAY CUT. So, hmmm working more hours, dedicating 110% to your position and you feel a pay cut is in order. IF I COULD ONLY personally share with you how I feel MR. BIG BOSS! Karma is a bitch!

So swallowing this such pill, not happening. Work more hours, and make less money. Wow, thanks that sounds fabulous!

THE BIG QUESTION... what to do?!? The job market, not so stellar... Brad's job not working out. Life change in the near future, 100%!

The universe is talking to us, and we are listening. Life may get harder, but it will only make us stronger. I am a big believer in following your dreams. You only have one life after all. ONE LIFE...

Lots of changes happening over here... god give us strength! Pin It

16 comments:

  1. Jessica ...
    life is not as simple nor as easy as the "Fairy Tales", but should always be in search of the ideal of the perfect, the Real! Went through a lot, worked exactly seven years as industrial pharmacist, earn va little, but I worked a lot depended on it, our family was forming and that salary was appropriate. I listened to my heart. I dropped everything to devote myself exclusively to children's parties, decorating, creating, LOVE! I have two daughters and one has only 11 months. I decided to give me that chance. I heard my HEART. Listen. Often the response is stored within us, hidden, just waiting for what we call TIME ...
    Kisses and thanks for sharing your sorrows. I hope I helped!
    (Sorry English)

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  2. Ugh! Same here! The hubs is now making less than he was when he started! Frustrating, but the good news is, he is out to dinner with a, potential, new employer, after a really great interview! It will get better and someone out there will appreciate his hard work! I sooo feel for you and Brad!

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  3. Wow!! That's a hard pill to swallow. You guys are surely being challenged. But God doesn't give you more than you can handle. I'm sure things will work out for you.

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  4. I hear you loud and clear, hon. These are tough times and they can be trying. Been through the up and downs of jobs and layoffs ourselves and I can tell you, you never know where it can eventually lead. There might be an opportunity around the corner neither of you could ever have anticipated. You are incredibly talented and I know your gifts will take you far. Lean on your faith. It will take you to the other side of this situation with your heart in tact. :) xoxo

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  5. I hear you and am so sympathetic. I am having some really tough job stuff right now myself, including pay cuts and the like, so I get it. In the past 3 years, my group I worked with went from 45 ppl to 9. Not pretty. I will say, everyone that is no longer with our group found something BETTER. If your husband needs to leave, it will be meant to be. I really believe this.

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  6. I totally feel for you. After being married to a car man who spent every living hour at work or at home exhausted for 13 years the best thing that happened for us was when the car business slumped two and a half years ago and he lost his job, not great financially but we are making it and he is now my business partner, something that I would never have guessed he would do 3 years ago, my business was always my "hobby", but thank god I had my "hobby" LOL or god only knows where we would be. I would never have been able to grow my business without him these past two and a half years. You will make it and things happen for a reason, at the end of the day it is your marriage and relationship to each other that matter, there is no shame in downsizing your lifestyle for the love of your life in fact my marriage is stronger now than it has ever been. That which doesn't kill you only makes you stronger!

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  7. It's hard but count your blessings. You could be like hundreds of other people and rather then being told you are getting a pay cut you are told you no longer have a job at all.

    Times are hard the world is adjusting anyway it can. Just remember that things don't stay bad forever. Try your best to be supportive and don't let this come between the two of you. You know your husband is working long hard hours to support you so do your best to support him and try not to complain about it. Just listen to him when he wants to complain.

    Good luck and hang in there.

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  8. Keep your head up, frustrating I know first hand. Heres to new & better doors opening! Carli

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  9. Don't you just love the economy/employer mentality now-a-days? NOT! I'm sorry to hear that..I'll definitely keep you in my prayers! And remember that "we're" not the ones in charge (even though we always think we are) and God has the plan...Keep you head up!
    Terri

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  10. Beyond thanks for all your inspiring and thoughtful comments!

    I know life can only change for the better!

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  11. Wow! 100% dissatisfied will bring about 100% change. In the universal order of things change is going to come, and it will be for the better. Like you said in your post life gets tougher and it only makes us stronger, each tough day we have those muscles begin to get bigger. We pray that everything works out real soon for your good. God Bless you and your family!

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  12. Ditto Elisha! 100% dissatisfied will bring about 100% change! :) Hang in there chica! You are doing awesome, your shop is taking off by leaps and bounds. Stay on your grind... it will all work out.

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  13. You are in my thoughts and prayers sweetie!! Things like this happen (esp with this economy) and just know that your friends and family will be there for you to get you through the hard times... just put your faith in God and everything happens for a reason!

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  14. I'm a HUGE believer in 'Everything happens for a reason'! I know it's hard to see it now and how to think of it in terms of a positive, but I really think something good will come out of it! Keep your chin up and keep doing what you're doing because with your talent, I think only wonderful things are to come! xoxo

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  15. We will keep you in our prayers! Good luck with everything! :)

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  16. Sorry Jess... What I've seen so far from you is a strong and determined woman(oh, and super talented;). Keep pushing forward, don't let it get you down. Your hard work will pay off in the end!!!

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